Drawings of Patti’s urn.

An email exchange between my sister and me about my (then 3-year-old) niece Maggie soon after Patti’s death. (For those who’ve not yet read my new book, A Kiss Before You Go, we are referring to Patti’s urn, a bear-shaped cookie jar).

Miranda: Maggie says she wants to die so she can be in the cookie jar like Patti. How should I respond?

Me: It’s good.  From now on A) she’ll associate death  with sweets and B) she’ll associate sweets with death. Win-win!